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How to Find Mr-Right

 How to Find Mr-.Right 

We will help you to understand how to find Mr-Right by examining personal unconscious motives for attracting men who are unsuitable for the relationship you desire.  Gathering evidence and completing a comprehensive self-interrogation will allow you to deduce pieces of the puzzle which continue to lead you away from your dream of a satisfying long term relationship.


Finally, use this page How to Find Mr-Right to identify and gather clues you will develop insights that will give you a fresh start in overcoming internal obstacles so you can attract the relationship you desire.Many women become frustrated because they repeatedly are attracted to men who are unavailable, too dependent, too controlling or even abusive. Longing to develop a dating connection that progresses into a long-term romantic couple relationship frequently ends in disappointment We will help you to understand your personal unconscious motives for attracting men who are unsuitable for the relationship you desire.  Gathering evidence and completing a comprehensive self-interrogation will allow you to deduce pieces of the puzzle which continue to lead you away from your dream of a satisfying long term relationship

The Finding of Mr. Right

It’s an Inside Job

Evaluate the emphasis you put on external factors in searching to meet the particular person known as the one.  How much emphasis do you put on creating the perfect profile on dating sites or feel you must be at your goal weight or have the right clothes etc. when you think of how to find Mr.- Right.

Additionally, many of you believe that if you could just figure out and follow the proper rules of the first meeting, they will have a match.  Some of the regulations include the correct interval of time to contact or when is the right time to become sexually involved. Are you preoccupied with external issues regarding the external factors rather than looking inside yourself to discover possible problems?

Certainly, some external factors are important but often women seeking relationships ignore the inside job. The most valuable evidence lies in one’s inner world. The motive to attract the wrong men can begin in early childhood and is reinforced again and again by a person’s experience over time. The real suspect lies in one’s first experience.

 Look at  Your Relationship Patterns

You may feel helpless in avoiding falling into relationships that follow a pattern making it impossible to form a long-lasting relationship. The model can be derived from early family origin issues.

The first relationships are with our family of origin. Most families do not have the intention to have a baby and mess their baby up. However, parenting is complicated including the way a child fits into a family. Parents armed with parenting classes and manuals can get triggered from a child in the family that triggers the mother’s issues. The mother may lose perspective when interacting with the child.

The relationship children experience with parents and siblings as well as an observant of the role model of the parental relationship create an unconscious blueprint. It is this unconscious design that contributes to the men women attract into their lives. Unfortunately, women sleuth out partners with similar characteristics that were difficult for them to cope with as children. In a romantic relationship, women often have the wish to change the unmet need in childhood though a romantic relationship which may have the same characteristics of the family of origin.  The disappointment that man is not able to give what the woman has longed for since childhood creates a relationship that is doomed to frustration or failure and a loss of spirit leaving the question of how to find MR-Right.

  Your Attachment Style

A second internal factor that affects the choice of potential partners is your attachment style. A pattern of attachment is an attachment pattern is formed in early childhood usually fashioned by a child’s temperament and parental attachment styles. There are four types of attachment styles which affect children’s interpersonal associations throughout life.

Secure Attachments

The attachment style that helps relationships thrive is a secure attachment style. Romantic partners with secure attachment styles tend to be most fulfilled in their relationship. Most women want this type of relationship. Both partners tend to be secure within themselves and can be present for the other in times of need. Partners can feel connected when they are together as well as when they enjoy their individual pursuits.

Anxious Attachments

People who have developed anxious attachment styles readily form bonds before they know the other. How often have you attributed characteristics to a partner that you need but a potential partner lacks?Anxious attachments typically are characterized by those who have a high need for the other. Their early childhood self-appears and looks to the other to rescue or make them feel whole. There is a feeling of being unsafe or insecure in the world without the other. Often by clinging to their partner, the partner feels smoother and pulls away.

Avoidant Attachments

Avoidant attachments are typically people who need to have an emotional distance from their partners. Usually, these partner’s parents have been unable to be nurtured or provide secure foundations for their children. Given a strong constitution, these kids raise themselves and as adults seek isolation, tend to their needs and have difficulty attending to the needs of their partner. Often partners with this attachment style can feel anxious if they become too close or too distant from their partner. They can be preoccupied with the fear of being abandoned or fear of losing themselves in the relationships

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Spatial Intimacy

Types of intimacy include sexual, physical, emotional, intellectual and most importantly spatial intimacy Spatial intimacy comprises the proximity or the degree of closeness and separation each partner needs. Often spatial intimacy issues are the culprit for one partner feeling the other is unavailable. Spatial intimacy issues can be blamed on the other. Therapists are discussing the unavailable choice of partners their client has chosen. However, upon further exploration, it seems that a person who sticks with someone who is spatially unavailable because they need distance as well.

 Emotionally Guarded 

Do you wonder how others perceive you? Why do certain men approach you? Some people have had so much hurt and loss in their lives that unconsciously they present themselves in a safe manner. At times individuals who need more spatial intimacy or are emotionally guarded attract others who also need  space or are emotionally guarded

           

  An Honest Internal Interrogation

           Stay tuned for our next post. We will provide exercises and quizzes interactively to allow you to explore yourself and gather evidence about each of the above aspects possible relationships. Developing an awareness of the manner in which they make a connection and identifying the types of attachments they have done in the past can help to bring about change within yourself and perhaps alter the types of partners you are attracted.





                                                                             

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